Telling yourself “don’t cry” is a really bad idea, because there’s more emphasis on the word crying then there is on don’t. That little word “don’t” doesn’t have enough power to hold up against the wave of emotion that was coming toward it with the word cry!
When we’re looking to change things in our circumstances, for instance in our finances, then trying to say things like, “don’t panic” does nothing except lead you down the road of panicking. Watch your words and see if you are leading yourself in the direction you choose to go instead of tripping yourself, stumbling on your way in the direction you don’t want to go.
Instead of thinking don’t panic you can tell yourself, ” it will be okay, I’m fine, I’m safe… I will figure this out!”. These are the kinds of things we need to say to ourselves.
Listen to your dialogue catch yourself and say stop it! Then focus on what you actually are wanting. Your emotions are a big clue to whether your words are working for you or against you. If you are feeling nervous… What are you saying that is causing this anxiety? Yell “Stop it” at yourself and change directions!
