The word “No” changes the value of
the other words around it. Such as, “No Heat” would not mean heat. Remember that the word “No” is not a strong modifier. When it is pushed up against something like. “No War” War is so volatile that the word “No” can not defuse it to make you feel better.
I remember seeing an anti-war rally where people were walking around holding signs that said. “No WAR!”
I thought to
myself. “they do not realize that their words do nothing but stir up ill feelings.
If I were creating a sign, I would stack up huge volumes of positive words to pull the energy out of the word war.
Absolutely,
positively shall we never again have war!
Or better yet. Look only at the positive outcome you are reaching for. “WE DEMAND PEACE!”
When you are talking to yourself pay attention to how you are using the word no. Spend a day listening fo
r the word no in your vocabulary. See if you can stop yourself from reaching for this impotent modifier and make some declarations for yourself with a more powerful choice of words.
I, __________ place myself, ____________ into a Full Court of Atonement with myself, ______________ for the purpose of becoming hyper-aware of my use of the word “no’ I ask myself to use the word no in the most productive ways to create the outcomes I intend.
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