How To Live A Happy Life As An Empath!

A couple of friends were discussing on Facebook how hard it is to go into busy public places, because, they begin to feel anxiety and stress from everyone around them. They were saying it was the “Curse” of being an empath.

I used to feel that way myself, but I have figured out a couple of simple things to do to clear that energy off of me.

The first thing you need to become aware of, is that you are the one butting into other peoples stuff!!!   People would have you believe that others are being energy vampires.  That does happen, but it’s not as intentional as they would leave you to believe.   The biggest problem is that you yourself have no boundaries.   Your energy is scattered and flitting about getting jumbled in other peoples gunk. Stop that!!!

Here are a few things that I like to do that help me remain calm, cool and relaxed no matter what is going on around me. (Remember, I sing in bars for a living!)

  • I check in with myself and ask. “Does this energy belong to me?” I feel this answer, like a wave of energy flowing up for yes and down for no. Try it for yourself ask yourself “Is my name __(State your name)____?” You should feel a yes rise up through you. If you were to ask yourself “Is my name Norman Vladimir?” You should feel a “Negative” drop to the energy in your body.
  • Ground yourself in your name. Say “I am ___________________!!! Say your name, first middle and last. Say it strongly, loudly and firmly. I AM___________!! (Even if it’s only in your mind.) Say this three to ten times if needed. This gathers your energy back from wherever it has wandered.
  • I also like to follow up with this statement. “Only those who come from the light and are filled with light are allowed in my space.” “I disconnect myself from everyone I have come in contact with anywhere!!!”
  • I gather my energy to me, and I hold it close, I ask for the assistance of God to keep my energy pure and loving and calm.

A good exercise is to imagine yourself being filled with bright white light. Imagine it pouring down over and through you and clearing off everything that isn’t yours and then anchoring into the earth. See it spreading out 9 feet in all directions like a giant sphere around you. Now, imagine your energy sphere being wrapped in blue/green light. take a moment to notice how good you feel.

Do this a couple of times a day for a week or two until you know what it feels like.  Once you have it down, you can make your self a statement that actives this process instantly. Ken simply says. “Shields up!”

I do these exercises periodically throughout the day. A minimum of 5 times a day to be exact. These processes don’t take long, and I really enjoy the peace and tranquility that they provide. My students always whine and complain that they shouldn’t need to clear their energy all the time. Let me ask you this. How many times are you willing to wash your hands in a day? Every time you get them dirty, right!

Energy doesn’t only come to us by proximity. Every time someone thinks about you… They connected to your energy!  This is where energy vampires come into play.    As a healer my clients think.  “Oh man I need Amy Jo to help me.”  ZAP!!!   Crap!!!

Every time you think about someone. You connect your energy to theirs!   You’d like to think that having moved half way across the world from your family, that they are not affecting you anymore. But energy doesn’t need a phone to make a connection… It just does it at the speed of thought!

Because I feel other peoples emotions so drastically, I have made a lot of habits to assist me to dump that energy off of me.   For instance,  when I am showering I say. “I am washing off everyone else’s stuff and clearing and grounding my energy.” I say the same thing every single time I wash the dishes or even just wash my hands.

Belongings that were once owned by someone else are filled with imprints of the previous owners thoughts. Prior to learning to clear my energy, I would rather go to a grave yard than a thrift store! So hiding in your house is not the answer. Get in there and clean up your energy and protect it.

When I am sweeping, dusting or vacuuming I say. “I am cleaning out every thought and pattern that does not belong to me.”

I try to make it fun. I will tell you this, I used to get major head aches going out in public. I hardly ever get them any more. And if I do, I can use those few sentences I have just shared with you and the headache always go away!

Remember energy follows thought. Intend to clear your energy and that is all it takes!

© Amy Jo Ellis 2017

Amy Jo is the Author of the Court of Atonement a 22 booklet that teaches a process that assists in healing deep traumas and conflicts.   It is getting world wide attention and currently being translated into 5 languages.

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I am your average everyday mother of 3 with now 3 grandkids. I am also a singer/songwriter performing in country clubs and dinner houses. But behind all of this, there is the ability to listen deeper into my own thoughts and hear where the good ideas are actually coming from. It's the same place that I came from... God If you have any questions, you can reach me online at
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3 Responses to How To Live A Happy Life As An Empath!

  1. Gail Bowdish says:

    Thank you for this very timely reminder as I am dealing with a very toxic relationship with my sister right now. I just have two more days with her physical being, then I can leave. But the spiritual connection can never be broken. I will use the court of atonement to heal the toxicity, for my own sake if not for hers.


  2. Nancy says:

    Well, you already know how much I like this, and the refinements (‘only those who come from the light AND ARE FILLED WITH THE LIGHT’ and the disconnect from everyone…everywhere, and very successful. Good job.


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